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It’s amazing that you can sit down to write something and God give you a whole other topic that is totally unrelated to what you “thought” you wanted to share. It was on my heart to write about women who get mad and angry when men they are in love with marry other women, however, the thoughts wouldn’t come. It was almost as if it needed to be seasoned more before plating and consumption. Then out of nowhere God dropped this topic on my lap–as if people needed it ASAP. Are you prime pickings for a thief? That’s what He wanted me to ask–to present.
Sometimes as women (and men too) we want to love so bad that we go into areas that we have no business in and expect those tainted areas of life to produce a good, Godly outcome–when we know better. We know we are supposed to heed God’s word, wait on Him and decrease our flesh to the point that it doesn’t lead us to total ruin when it comes to relationships. But wanting someone’s hand to hold as we walk down the street or someone to cuddle up and watch movies with makes us do foolish things. We step out of God’s will and try to do it our way only to come home crying to Him when it doesn’t work out, despite the fact that He gave us clear instructions to follow that we willfully ignored.
To fool some of us is like taking candy from a baby–meaning it takes no real effort at all. God said that to me as I was writing this. There are women who date men who don’t know Jesus, don’t want to know Jesus, can’t stand the name of Jesus and yet they date them anyway because they’re male and have a pulse, and well…they’re lonely. They justify this by saying, “Oh, well, we’re not intimate. I’m not sleeping with him.” But what God shared with me is that “a thief will case out a house as long as it takes to get what’s inside.” That was a light bulb moment for me. The key here isn’t to not sleep with him or give in to his sexual advances. The goal is to never let him in the front door of your life!
Just talk to millions of heartbroken women across the world. You don’t have to have sex with a man to have them totally ruin your credit, steal your car, badmouth you to your own friends, use your apartment (once you give him the key) to bring another woman there when you’re not home, molest your children, mooch off of your savings, sell your belongings for drugs or even introduce YOU to drugs. Those who are hidden safely in God’s word aren’t as easy to fool, but if we are launching out into territory that we don’t belong in anything can happen. That’s like walking in the rain without an umbrella (covering) and expecting to not get wet. As believers we need to become harder to fool. The enemy shouldn’t be able to pull the wool over your eyes just because it comes with a well-trimmed mustache, a little muscle and a degree from Harvard. If it can, then your standards are too low!
We need to renew our minds (Romans 12:2) so that God’s standards become our standards. It’s not enough to play sexual games with people and withhold sex for 90 days in an effort to see if a man is a keeper. If he’s a keeper he’ll abstain from sex to the altar. If he’s a keeper he’ll confess Jesus as his Lord and Savior and obey how He says to love in 1 Corinthians 13. If he’s a keeper he’ll put the pride aside and renew his mind with the word daily and soak up any tip he can get on how to communicate, compromise with a future spouse and make love work better. Let’s stop hanging our precious jewels on our front door and then act surprised at how the thieves get into our lives. Let’s work on making God, His laws and statutes our final authority and save ourselves the heartache.
There are a variety of ways that a thief can affect our lives, let us just make sure we are holding ourselves accountable and aren’t the ones giving them the all access pass and making excuses just because we’re too in a hurry to wait on God. He wants to help us. We are His children, but ultimately…even when it comes to happiness…we have to let Him. Don’t choose the thief. Choose His way today. Choose happiness.
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