Greetings! This is our first blog post. The Lord dropped it in my spirit this morning that we needed to have a blog on the website here that covers a variety of topics as well as relationship articles to round out the Monday Morning series. In our initial blog post we definitely wanted to touch on something that is URGENT and would probably get a lot of feedback from visitors. Singlehood always manages to do that–get feedback. If you know someone who needs this message, feel free to forward it, share the link or invite them to Click to Subscribe via Email to the Love Better Camp website.

How many of us know single friends who are completely and totally sold out to the Lord, but yet, they are TIRED OF WAITING for that spouse that has been promised to them? Although Philippians 4:6 states clearly that we should be anxious for nothing, it’s kind of hard to pat single women and men on the heads and say, “Just wait on God, He’s coming.” Often we probably wish we knew just what to tell them to soothe that ache to be united with a likeminded believer that will celebrate them as they move through what 1 Corinthians 13 confirms that love is. We probably rattle off a few scriptures and hope that helps. Most of the time it doesn’t.

If we’re honest, we probably know some people who get downright angry about being single too, demanding to know when it will be “their” turn and how come it’s taking so long. They wonder if God is there, if He’s heard their hours of prayers or in some extreme cases some start to wonder if He’s real at all. I was single once, and I’m here to tell you or anyone who finds themselves in this season–waiting on God doesn’t mean doing nothing. I’m not saying that flippantly, however, sometimes single people get so focused on being single that it takes over everything. It saturates every spare moment they have and instead of launching out into the deep that God may have them do in this season in their lives, their daily mantra is stuck on, “I’m single, I’m single, I’m single, I’m single.”

The first thing that I had to learn to do when I was single was to make up my mind to be content in my life. If God never sent me a man, I had to determine in my mind that I would still love Him and serve Him with a smile. Me serving God and doing what He called me to do had absolutely nothing with Him delivering me a spouse. I wasn’t issuing God an ultimatum. I had to learn to make up my mind about that early on and become faithful over the things He put my hands and once I did, I could instantly feel a shift into (maybe not overjoyed) but happier.

The next thing I had to do on a DAILY basis was stop reliving the fact that I was single in my mind over and over and over and over again. You mind is where the enemy will first seek to attack you. That’s what he did with me. He made sure every time I saw a couple walking down the street holding hands that he whispered, “But you’re still single,” in my ear. I had to learn to focus on what the word says, not what the enemy wanted me to focus on, because his job is to get us off track. Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” That’s exactly what I did. Not just for a month, but it had to become a good practice that I replaced the bad habit with.

The most difficult thing I had to do when I was single is the thing that most people shy away from, skip or think they can avoid by running or pretending they’re already perfect. I had to prepare myself to be someone’s wife by making ME better. I like to say that God is not going to bless His best with a mess. So, I couldn’t just have a list of things that I wanted the man God was sending to be, I had to be a list of positive things too so that it increased the chances that our marriage would last. I had to dig deep and uncover some of those traits and behaviors that needed to go, because if I didn’t, the me I still was at that time would’ve sent any man who approached me, running for his life.

Finally I had to trust that my Heavenly Father’s timing is perfect and that He knows exactly what I need. He knows the height, the common interests, the personality and every little thing in between. Sometimes we think we have to tell God every detail when we are His already and He knows what goes into us. I believed with my whole heart that God wanted me to have His best because I am His princess. I had to remind myself of this more than just a couple of times because anxiousness does arise and try to lead you think that the God who created the Heavens and earth needs our little bitty help, when we know that He’s quite capable on His own. I prayed about my anxiousness often because I didn’t want a man landing on my doorstep still riddled with issues that God was trying to take care of in him, but couldn’t because “I” was in a rush. A man who was the equivalent of an undone cake is not what I was after, but rather God’s best. And that’s exactly what I got when I married my husband who now assists me with the ministry. He is more than I could have ever asked for and I’m thankful to God that He showed me how to wait and birthed in me the book The Plural Thing: Spiritually Preparing for Your Soul Mate.

Wait on God men and women of the faith, and believe that He wants nothing more than to give you a powerful testimony that will glorify Him forevermore.

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