by Harriet Hairston
http://harriet-canshesaythat.blogspot.com
Merriam-Webster’s dictionary has several definitions for the word “crown:”
- A reward of victory or mark of honor;
- A royal or imperial headdress or cap of sovereignty;
- A wreath, band, or circular ornament for the head, and my favorite:
- Something that imparts splendor, honor, or finish.
So my question for the ladies is which of the above definitions apply to you? Truthfully, #3 applies to us all. As wives or future wives, we were created to be crowns to our husbands. We are going to be a crown whether we like it or not.
The key, though, is what kind of crown ARE you? A wise person once sat me down during a particularly turbulent time I was having with my husband. He told me something that stuck with me, and I don’t think I’ll ever forget it. He said, “As a wife, you’re going to be a crown to your husband. Whether a crown of glory or a crown of thorns is strictly up to you.”
A crown of glory:
- Understands that she was taken from a man’s side to protect his most vital organ…his heart. As such, she ensures her speech and demeanor with him does not take advantage of that area of vulnerability.
- Realizes that her responsibility is to INFLUENCE the vision for her family and steer it in the direction God assigned for it.
A crown of thorns, on the other hand:
- Capitalizes on her husband’s vulnerabilities and belittles him every time she gets a chance to.
- Would prefer to have double vision (division) as opposed to influence. Would rather LEAD than influence the vision for her family, thus steering it apart instead of together.
Do you impart splendor, honor or proof of finish to your husband’s life? Or do you belittle, embarrass, crucify and damn your husband every time you get a chance? Remember always that a worthy wife is the crown of glory. Choose today which you will be for the rest of your life.
God bless!
“A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones,” Proverbs 12:4 (New Living Translation)
