by Harriet Hairston
http://harriet-canshesaythat.blogspot.com
“How big is your imagination? How much do you dream? Have you ever had a vision that seemed so far to reach?”
These words reached out and grabbed me over seven years ago as I was listening to Yolanda Adams’ latest album in my car on my way to work. I can answer them for myself now, but for a time in my marriage, I couldn’t tell you the answers my husband would have to these questions. He is a visionary, but in many ways, I didn’t know how to tap in to the melody of his heart to encourage him to pursue those visions. My attitude was very “business as usual,” and although it didn’t have a detrimental effect on our marriage, a change in that area could have revolutionized it long ago.
“Well, I ain’t trying to preach to you, but I’m really concerned about the road you choose. Where are you going? What are you doing? What are you choosing?”
Are you concerned about the road your spouse chooses beyond just paying bills and taking care of business? So many people these days are content to die at age 25, and then wait to get buried at age 90. What about your spouse’s wildest dreams? How can you aid in making them a reality? Beyond what goes on in the bedroom, what is your spouse passionate about? How can you create a symphony that will move your spouse to dance towards his or her destiny?
“Let the melody you hear whisper softly in your ear, telling you that you can do anything if you believe.”
What kind of composition have you created to help get your spouse to his or her purpose? Here are some questions I asked my husband to ascertain what his dreams were:
- Baby, what are you passionate about?
- What kinds of dreams did you have about you future when you were a child?
- Did you give up on those dreams? If so, why?
- Did you fulfill your dreams? If not, how can I help?
- Have there been times when you have wanted to set your dreams in motion, but my attitude stifled your desire? Please forgive me if that’s ever been the case.
“We should be willing to become the biggest fan of our spouses. We have the unique opportunity to join them in dance in the unique melody of encouragement that cannot be composed by anyone other than us.”Look, God is all-powerful. Who is a teacher like Him? No one can tell Him what to do, or say to Him, ‘You have done wrong.’ Instead, glorify His mighty works, singing songs of praise,” Job 36:22-24 (New Living Translation)
